The secret you need to know about feeling loved in a relationship

I know you really want to know this secret: how to feel loved by another person and that your love sustains you. It's really simple, and it probably is not what you think.

Love yourself.

Yes, that is the secret to get love from others. Love yourself first.

When you do not feel enough love inside, when you do not feel good enough, kind enough, smart enough, whatever is enough, the default is to try to make someone else make you feel this way.

You think: "If he or she loves me, then I will feel loved." Unfortunately it does not work this way.

Trying to secure love abroad makes us persecute people and demand their love. But this only leaves us, well, chasing. It will never get you the love you want. (Take a moment to think about it: how many times has love haunted you? My point, exactly).

That's because the secret to feeling loved by someone else is to love yourself. When you love yourself first, then everything else will fall into place.

What we experience from others is a reflection of what we experience within ourselves. If you feel desperate for someone else's love, it is a sign that you desperately need to love yourself. There is a hole that you try to fill, but the reality is that you can only do it. As you fill this inner need, as you love more and more, you will also feel more love for others.

What do I mean when I speak of "self-love"? It's about how you talk to yourself when you're wrong, to give yourself enough time to sleep, to eat foods that make you feel nourished rather than private. Self-love is the simple but profound act of treating yourself the way you would treat someone you care deeply about.

I have experienced this concept deeply in my own life. In the past, at times when I did not feel well enough, I desperately wanted to feel loved by someone else, particularly by a romantic couple. As much as I tried not to, I would grab and hold on to a man's love, hoping I could feel that they loved me. I thought that his love was the answer, and if I could only get it, everything would fit in its place. This could not have been further from the truth.

Finally, after a lot of soul searching and inner work, I realized the real truth, and began to focus on loving myself.

What happened next As the love within me grew, so did the love I felt for others. In fact, it was directly correlated.

All this time I had been trying to get love abroad, and it never worked. But once I started taking care of myself, the experience of being appreciated by others was very natural. I no longer had to chase others out of love; I just had to do the work necessary to feel love inside of me, and the rest took care of itself.

When I began to feel full, beautiful and magnificent internally, I experienced that others felt these things for me in a greater way than ever. When I accepted my feelings and was kind to myself when I struggled, I met others who did the same for me.

Our internal experience is reflected in our relationships, therefore, the best you can always do is find love inside. In case of doubt, love yourself.

Loving yourself is a process. It's not like you do it once, cross it off the list and you're done. It is a lifestyle.

If you want to change your body, you must change your diet and exercise routine. The same if you want to change your heart: you commit to a plan and go for it.

Do it by reading inspiring books and being in touch with people who elevate it.

To do this, work with mentors or coaches who can guide you along the way.

Do it by changing your internal dialogue to more kind and friendly words.

You go for it You continue. And you persevere.

I know that you want to feel completely appreciated and loved in relationships, and I am here to tell you that you can do it. The change begins within you.

Treat yourself the way you want others to treat you, and the rest will fall into place.

Please leave a comment below to tell us how you are going to love today. I hope to hear from you.